Costa – Gunayon Nuptial

It’s every girls dream to tie a knot to the rightful man they deserved, and today marks another significant to my dream job, to the passion where my heart is leading me… -the Wedding.

High School friends are the best kept friends, the old ones who know you better than you yourself. I remember being with this all girls group and now im the sole single by all means except the fact that I have a twin.  Some are saved by good marriage, others are on motherhood and the rest are enjoying their “in a relationship” statuses. Wow! ang sarap siguro isipin nun, kaso on my part nakaka tense na nakakaexcite, why? Because my circle of all girl friends are now being surrounded by couples. How happy it is indeed to be surrounded and inspired by young couple who are on the same path of moving their lives forward –together.

Today the lady I considered to be one of my closest friend got married. Actually it was a while ago… and like what I used to do, I am writing for her kasi fan ko siya and she read the thoughts I write for her with matching teary eyed. To the newly married Mr.  & Mrs. Chester Costa this blog is for you.

To my new favorite couple,

Married life will never be easy, maraming struggles that will come your way, di yun mawawala, but always remember the vows you had for each other and the rules that God wrote for you. Both of you were made by love, you met each other by love and you were established by it. Your presence today is also because of love, pero di lang love ang kailangan to sustain a meaningful relationship, you also need to keep your respect, loyalty and faith for each other. I’ve seen how far you grow with each other at kung anong klase ng mundo meron kayo para sa isat isa. Kayo na nga yata yung matatawag na living proof ng salitang “The Lucky Ones”. You are both lucky to have each other, to wake up each and every day beside each other, imagine hindi lahat ng couple keri yun, meron talaga tinitest ng distance so don’t give up on it.

Chester,

I’ll give you 2 rules to be a better Husband,

1. Wife is always right
2. If wife is wrong go back to rule # 1.

And this is true…  Love your wife as God love his church.

Joy,

My dear, I am the happiest for you, for you fought for your love and for what you deserved, I am a fan of your strength, of what you did to be Chester’s better half, I’ve seen you on your darkest hours and I am very happy to see you glow again. I am sure that you are indeed in love. Para sayo, let Chester be the man of your home and the leader of your family, may your light shine with him.

For both of you, there are always a Do’s and Don’ts to remember…

Don’t…

1. Insist your right
2. Blame each other
3. Judge or condemn each other
4. Find fault with each other

Do…

1. Accept each other
2. Forgive each other every day from the bottom of your heart.

And remember what’s written in the bible. Man and woman should not destroy their marriage because it was God who made it. God made marriage indissoluble. What therefore God has joined let no man put asunder.  Marriage is more than your love for each other; it is a display of covenant keeping love between Christ and his church.

⁴ Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ⁵ It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ⁶ Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. ⁷ It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. ⁸ Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. ⁹ For we know in part and we prophesy in part, ¹⁰ but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. ¹¹ When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. ¹² For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.¹³ And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

with the bride.. im with the look of feeling left behind haha

the bride and the groom…
Mr. & Mrs. Chester Costa

Keep your love burning and you always have me… I love you both!

xoxo,

jophanie

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Singleblessedness

Few days ago, I felt like a total comeback queen though everything seemed to be new, of course it was, because even before I had this back, I already had issues of using it, but learning is a process and thank God that I have a very nice brother in law who massively support me and lend me his laptop, (yes im a writer and I don’t own any personal computer, any sponsor?) I am transferring old post  from my tumblr account but decided not to so it won’t eat my time, maybe for a few, especially those post that touched me.

So, I was haunted by ‘what to post again? last night I had few issues, but due to lack of sleep I ended up sleeping early and woke up early with a thought of having a huge meal at Pande Americana -that didn’t push through because I don’t have someone to accompany me, (who will take me pictures if I go alone in the first place? -LOL). So what to post now? Mine was I think I should be posting thoughts about my single-blessedness, how it made me felt awkward and positive, weighing both terms is tough but still find answers that I sure can elaborate and disclose and to be honest I’m a little emotional while writing this not because I hate the feeling of being left out and behind but because I’ve been blessed being surrounded by love.

Few weeks back, I read a post from my friend, Rose Ann Salvador (anong). This is about her engagement with the love of her life Mark Jeron Mariano (Mack), Anong is a friend because she worked with my twin sister in local hospital way back home, and Mack is a crush down on my memory lane, and fate is truly amazing because made a good friendship with them, I don’t know much of how they started but I loved the thought of us being connected. I went back on my viber and read back anong’s messages made me feel kilig, feeling ko ako yung nasa pwesto nya and place my head after her na one day someone like Mack will do it for me. Since i’m a lot kind of “hopeless romantic” I want to take this moment to congratulate the couple specially Mack for his courage to talked to Anongs parent that he wants to spend the rest of his life with her, and how blessed he was to have that hard to earn “YES” from them. Their story is so fond of hearing because Mack really took the effort to fly to where she (anong) is stationed right now. To Mister and soon to be Missis Mark Jeron Mariano, Congratulations and thank you for sharing your wonderful love story to us and for inspiring me as well.

 

Another story that I had my eyes on is my cousin Clarrisse, to where someone from her facebook account posted addressing her as “girlfriend” and I quote, ” To the most wonderful, amazing, understanding, awesome and loving girlfriend, I love youuuu! “

I teased her through text na dati kami na lang ang single now ako na lang, and she laugh back at me, I can imagine how she smile while replying on my message. When I read the post I was so nervous and I don’t know why, di ko alam kung saan galing but my heartbeat went above normal, and I was like, is this real that at my age I was the sole single person left, like most of my teen age friends are in real relationship and mine is still there hanging? I prayed, “anong nangyare lord? Ako pa talaga ang single?” like the wedding that I want and designed for me was placed for my twin sister, then all my friends are all like settling down and having their own family in next few years and me? I am still single! Even my beki friends are in real relationship. Well, to my cousin “Akit”. I am glad that God already give you your Gods gift in love, I will pray for your everlasting happiness with him. And to my beki friends as well, may you take good care of the love you found with each other.

To end this post, I will give the credit to my ENT bebe in New York who also is in love right now; thank you for your sweet words, you and that instagram post made me realized to be grateful and not so bitter of being single. You made me feel like no one could because you have given me the chance to see that silver lining in my dumbest days of feeling not so weird but a total bitter. Thank you Mikki, kase you made me aware na im not so really single at all because your partners are also God’s gift to me, boyfriend ang hinihingi ko pero ang ibinigay ay partner para sa inyo, he doubled what asked on him, and that makes me cool of being single. I will pray for your genuine happiness Mikki, and for our new ENT baby as well. I wish to hear the bells for you real soon.

And to all my friends who are committed right now, to those who are getting married real soon, to those who are conceiving may God grace you with the love and happiness you deserve. May you take a hold on the promises you said for each other, and like what I learned from the movie I saw recently, let there be an allowance of mistake and room of forgiveness.

Learn, Love, Laugh and Live.

Jophanie 🙂

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